October in the Tetons
My husband took this picture at a turnout north of Jackson, Wyoming, across from Antalope Flats Rd. WITH HIS CELL PHONE!!
It’s absolutely gorgeous up here this time of the year. September is my favorite month but October continues to be beautiful, if considerably cooler. The end of October is just about my limit for my time at our Wyoming cabin. It just gets too cold for this Southern belle!
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Who gets a bridal boutonniere? Traditionally the groom gives a boutonniere to each of his groomsmen. He may include close family members like fathers, grandfathers, and brothers. Anyone he and his bride want to recognize as special is a candidate for a boutonniere.
When it comes to planning your wedding, these days just about anything goes. In the old days (yes, I said it), there were strict guidelines about proper wedding etiquette. When you got engaged the first thing you did was to buy Amy Vanderbilt’s book, The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, which was published in its 50th anniversary edition in 1995. The invitation was very proper with only about 2 or 3 fonts that were considered acceptable. The card stock was either white or ivory with no embellishments or design and the wording was very scripted. Save the date cards? Never heard of them.
Today there are so many options in every area of wedding planning, from the previously mentioned save the date card right down to the color of the bride’s shoes. And with the changes in societal norms and customs, what’s acceptable and what’s not? Where are the guidelines?
I’ve been thinking about this topic for several months now, and it was highlighted recently when a bride commissioned custom boutonnieres for her wedding and asked me the question, “Who gets a boutonniere?” Good question? I had always thought that traditionally the groom, groomsmen/ushers, and fathers received a boutonniere. But today, who knows? So I did some research and started with good old Amy Vanderbilt. The last word on etiquette for over fifty years, she published her first book, Amy Vanderbilt’s Complete Book of Etiquette in 1952. The book has been updated many times and is still in circulation today. The word “boutonniere” is mentioned in Amy Vanderbilt’s book a whopping 41 time! And yet she only speaks of them with reference to the groomsmen/ushers and the groom. She doesn’t give specific guidelines as to who should wear one and never mentions the fathers at all.
So what’s the answer? As with everything else etiquette related, your object should be to be considerate and not offend anyone, while making those you consider special feel that way. Your budget does not have to be a stumbling block because you can find beautiful boutonnieres in all price points. DIY is always an option and can be your most cost effective way to include everyone you want to. Etsy can be your one stop shop for all things wedding and Etsy sellers offer boutonnieres starting at approximately $5 and going to upwards of $100. The norm is around $5 to $10. Boutonnieres can be added to your floral wedding package at a discount, so negotiate with your florist or bridal flower provider and you might get a few thrown in for free.
So I say it’s strictly up to the bride and grooms. Go ahead and glam up all of the special men in your life on your wedding day. You have my permission!
Images via www.alowcountrywedding.blogspot.com
DIY images via www.save-on-crafts.com
Etsy shops Kate Said Yes, Lunatiger, and BloominCute images via www.Etsy.com
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